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by **Tulatin** » Thu Sep 25, 2003 4:53 pm

Get out of my head E.

by **EvLwMn** » Thu Sep 25, 2003 4:56 pm

But why??? That super slide you have in there is SOOO much fun

Hehehehehe

by **Tulatin** » Thu Sep 25, 2003 6:03 pm

lol... is it just me, or do many threads end up as "help tulatin find/fix/understand his love life..."

by **Xojid** » Thu Sep 25, 2003 7:22 pm

Everyone desires to be loved. It's hardwired into every person; I don't care reclusive they say they are. I'm probably one of the biggest loners you'd ever meet, yet I recognize the need deep down to give and receive love.

One sick experiment done several decades ago (by the Soviets, if I'm correct) included several newborn infants. Half were given love and everything that a healthy baby needs to grow; the other half had minimal contact with anybody and were just fed and watered. The neglected children soon died for lack of love, be it in the form of physical contact or otherwise. I think that illustrates my point well enough.

In the end, true love and joy is a choice, not merely feelings that tickle your senses at the right moments. You choose to be happy or loving or whatever. All of life is a choice. You can either sit there like a stump on a log and grow moss or live life for all it's worth. I actually read "The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People" by Steven Covey as a textbook for a college class one time. Good stuff. I'd recommend checking it out.

It has been my experience that most men, if given a choice, wants a woman who is intelligent, independent and self sufficient - a woman who doesn't need to define herself or her life through a man because she has already done that on her own.

Nothin' wrong with that. I actually prefer strong women, just not the over-steroided (is that actually a word?) body-builder types. Martial artists are definitely high on the list. I've always thought there was something sexy about a woman who could kick my butt.

But, that's just me.

by **Valour** » Thu Sep 25, 2003 8:18 pm

Tulatin wrote:lol... is it just me, or do many threads end up as "help tulatin find/fix/understand his love life..."

It is you, but not in the way that you suspect. Reread previous comments RE: drama.

-Jem

by **Tulatin** » Thu Sep 25, 2003 8:33 pm

Point Taken...

by **TakMusashi** » Thu Sep 25, 2003 9:25 pm

EvLwMn wrote:It has been my experience that most men, if given a choice, wants a woman who is intelligent, independent and self sufficient - a woman who doesn't need to define herself or her life through a man because she has already done that on her own.

Yeah, I can vouch for that. Those are definately important things ^_^. Each guy I'm sure has their own customized view of what they're looking for. I agree too that you have to understand yourself and define yourself before you're able to really seek out and love another. I like to use an analogy of a puzzle piece.. sometimes you can make them fit if you force them, but it won't work out right. You have to know what you're looking for.

As for Tulatin, hey, that's what what we're here for right? To help eachother out and be helpful ^_^.

by **Tulatin** » Thu Sep 25, 2003 9:29 pm

pretty much yeah. As to what i want, i know what it is, but i don't know myself... the truest form of myself that i know exists here; i post as i am. You see me truly... the problem is that this is here, with all of you... not out there.

by **EvLwMn** » Thu Sep 25, 2003 9:32 pm

Well I guess what you need to do is find a way to translate forum Tulatin into real life Tulatin.

Did that make any sense

by **TakMusashi** » Thu Sep 25, 2003 9:34 pm

For what its worth, I'd reccomend just doing your best to ignore that little voice in your head that tells you that you must look like a moron when you do things. Just do what you want, say what you want, get involved and do the things that interest you with total disreguard for what you think others may believe. That way when you do find someone or someone finds you it will be the real you out there that they enjoy =).

disclaimer: this does not entitle you to be a moron

by **Tulatin** » Thu Sep 25, 2003 9:36 pm

Yes. [This May Seem Incomprehensible But] I've gotta find a way to get the essence of who i am on the net into my body... some way to join my entities, and persons... (there's definately more then one in here) (hey shut it) (why don't you make me?) (don't make me come over there!) (guys - shut up!) (make us... ) (ah crap - now there's three people in here...)

by **EvLwMn** » Thu Sep 25, 2003 9:37 pm

TakMusashi wrote:*snip* disclaimer: this does not entitle you to be a moron

LOL!! I second that dude :lol:

But really - Tak is right. If you follow your own interests and do the things you like to do and act the way you feel you should act the real you comes out. And you WANT a girl to like the REAL you and not some "you" that you have fabricated for public consumption.

by **TakMusashi** » Thu Sep 25, 2003 9:38 pm

grr.. methinks you may be trying to hard.. I'm a little different in person than I may come off as in these posts, but its okie =) no worries... dunno I keep using myself as a reference point, but I dont have a whole lot else to work with other than my own experiences and my own thoughts...

by **Tulatin** » Thu Sep 25, 2003 9:42 pm

And you WANT a girl to like the REAL you and not some "you" that you have fabricated for public consumption.

That is essentially ture - most know me now as somewhat a blend of myself and the person i built, which got me far... i will try to get back to me though... it'll just take time.

by **TakMusashi** » Thu Sep 25, 2003 9:47 pm

Truely the best advice I can give you is to not even go looking for a girlfriend.. I know that might seem hard, but my limited experience has had all of them kinda stumble upon me. It allows you to just be you and focus on everything else and not worry so much. I wasn't looking for one, I just got to know a girl that I met in class, another one that came on the same trip I happend to be on, and we spent more and more time together and one thin just kinda lead to another. This might get harder as you get older.. I imagine that when you're out of school you might have to be a little more pro-active about the whole deal.. dunno tho, I'm not there in my life.

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