TakMusashi wrote:I've had to at various times in my life make an attempt to become more outspoken, quick to speak etc. for that very reason. I guess part of it at the time was a desire for attention...I can't argue with Jem though. There's nothing quite like expressing yourself through writing whether it be for communication or stress relief or enjoyment. Just out of curiousity Jem, do you have someone in your life you can just sit down and have a slow, thoughtful, conversation with? From my experience, girlfriends or good friends will often be patient enough to let this happen and the whole experience is very meaningful and enjoyable ^_^ It brings you 2 closer together.
-Tak's 2 gp for the day.
No, I don't have anyone like that. People treat me differently in person than they do online. Here, words are power and if you can't effectively communictate with words, you can't participate or no one will like you. If I don't feel well, I don't have to post anything. If someone puts up a new thread and I don't respond to it, nobody thinks less of me or them. In live meetings things are different, the environment and the conditions for acceptance are different. There are moments when I shine and everyone wants to be close to me, and there are moments when I feel cold and invisible. I generally do better when I'm in charge of something because then I'm forced to be "on."
Live meetings demand your presence and attention. You have to be there for everyone and you have to be friendly. On a message forum or in email you don't have to show up if you don't want, and if you don't respond right away people accept that. I wouldn't want to be here if I had to respond to every thread.
I do have two people that I write letters to every now and then, but they've been busy with other things and I haven't heard from them in several weeks. One has just gone off to college and the other had to go on a long, tour-like business trip. I write them long letters; one writes short notes back and is otherwise at a loss for words. I think she feels nervous because she's many years younger than I and probably doesn't want me to think she's just some stupid teenage girl. She's quite an amazing person though -- very intelligent and far more talented than I am. She won the talent contest at the state fair last year. My challenge is to write something to her that compels her to write back; if I don't move her to respond immediately, I feel like I've failed.
The other person I mentioned writes long letters back to me, offering incredible satires of her life and all sorts of other interesting things. She's several years older than me and is an excellent writer, but I think she puts off writing back to me until she really feels inspired.
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