Alright, first of all, the fact that she said, "its cute and all that you really love me but" is kind of a sign that she may not have felt the way she's been telling you that she has for a while or something. You dont say, oh its cute and all that you love me. You dont make fun of someone for loving you and you definitely dont say, "ohhhh thats so cute!" That isnt something you normally say. At all. Talk about tearing someones heart out and stepping on it, and if it were me....I would say something to her about it.
Second of all, I dont think its "guilt shit" I think that its telling her how you feel and what she did to you. And I think that that is perfectly normal. That may just be me. But that's what I think. And third of all, not to be rude, or mean, or hurt anyones feelings. But she really sounds like a....well, she sounds like a bitch....
It either sounds like shes hiding something or shes just been fed up for a long time and she hasnt had the "cahones"(sp?) to say anything to you and now shes trying to make up for it. I dont know if this helps you at all, because I know how badly you want to be friends with her, but it sounds like you might be better off without her. I know everyone always says that when you break up with someone. BELIEVE me, I know. But this chick either has issues, or shes just too chicken to have told you how shes felt for a while. Alot of times when a person feels guilty about something, they always try to blame it on something or someone else. In this case, it sounds like shes trying everything in her power to make you stop talking to her, so that she doesnt have to feel guilty about breaking your heart. Maybe thats why she says she doesnt want to be friends either.
Maybe she thinks it would remind her too much of what she did or what she had....
but thats only when i have an enemy which is very rare for me. 
i think she will be my second. anywho, if what she replies is bitchy, then ill bitch right back and if she says "oh im sorry blah blah blah" ill reply somthing a tad bit nicer and ill end it there, i dont need any more of this drama, ive had enough myself. Psh, guilt, ill give her guilt! i could quote things she promised from saved e-mails and bring up things she told me but im nice enough not to, but if she replies bitchy again... 
, so sometimes im not much of a talker. 
hehe, just kiddin. I'm gonna go get some phone numbers starting tomorrow! and i am going to do something with my life damnit! i mean, i love computers, but i don't want to get to the point where thats all i have.
But Tak is right. You have a good attitude about the whole thing. You're willing to go back out there no matter what and make some changes with your life. That takes guts. Props to you.