I guess I can somewhat relate to this topic. On the other hand, I am almost 25 and a full time committment type of guy. I had a high school sweetheart who I've known since i was in diapers and we had always been friends. Well the summer of our junior year, she told me her parents were divorcing and she was moving to Florida (I live in Maryland). I was devistated. At this point in time we were involved in a relationship, so as you can imagine, this was devistating.
2-3 years pass, we talk off and on, she came up for visits to see family and of course made time for me, but it was still so hard. Finally one day. I believe the day before Valentines Day in 2000 or 2001, I just couldnt take it anymore. I packed up my car with everything that would fit (mainly clothes and my computer), and i headed down 95 south.
I wanted to be with her so bad. So I arrived at her dorm a good 15 hours later, much to her surprise, it was a huge Oprah/Jenny Jones crying session for hours.
After all was said and done, explaining to my parents why I left, etc... We began living together, months started passing, we started growing apart, and ultimately lost interest. So I decided it was time for me to leave, and I came back to Maryland, and believe me, that was hard enough to do...crawling back if you will.
To this day, since I've been back, she has cut me off from any communication with her. I dont know if it was of how hard things are or what, but it just didnt/doesnt seem right after so long to just drop things.
Anywho, thats my biggest love story in a nutshell. But as Tak said, you cant see men/women as a whole when it comes to anything...especially relationships. Its different strokes for different folks. Im a committed guy, whereas my best friend just wants to be a gigalo (and I hate him for it).
But as for now, I'm currently in an almost 2 year relationship with someone who found me in some online personals, and with the exception of the normal ups and down, I've never been more happy. So I dont really think its every guy who has a problem, it really just depends.
In my experience, most of the people in general who are scared of committment, are those who have been burned themselves, or have childhood or even present memories of their parents splitting up, and that would cause anyone to have a fear like that.
Thanks for listening to my rant. Hope I was of some help
"How you gonna punish a kid that ain't afraid to live in a box?" - Bernie Mac