Please dont say woah thats too long forget it, i think im on the verge of... just please read it and help me out if you can, im desperate. For the start of this relationship refer to topic long distance and read first post
i need your serious help on this one guys, im the long distance relationship. Ok, so put yourself in my situation, its the only way you can understand where im coming from and sorry for the lengthiness. She came to see me during christmas vaca, all good and fine. Our day would go something like go out, do some stuff, come home, cuddle on the couch for 5 hours making out, all that good stuff. We did that like every day to the last day then she left and we talked on the phone every night for an hour or 2 to keep in touch.
A month and a half later, oh yeah! all excited, spent $300 for plane ticket and some simple valentines day things. get there, i get one hug the first day, we go out have some fun, all fine and dandy, but bummer, she doesnt have the same vaca, im over it, ill just wait each day for her to comehome from school. when she gets home she watches tv for a couple of hours and i dont know what to do with myself so i watch her crappy soap operas and put up with that stuff. i only get to see her for a week so i dont want the rest of the days to be like this, i want them to be more than just layin around the house. but everyday the same stuff happened, i got about one kiss and two hugs of the eight days spent there. if i tried to tickle her, look into her eyes or make any attempt to cuddle she would say dont do that, its annoying. so am i wrong to feel rejected at this point or is it because of the atmosphere change perhaps? i asked her if we were still ok, if she still loved me and she replied "Of course i do!" and so i then asked if there was something wrong then and she replied "no im ok" so why was i rejected then? am i wrong for wanting some sort of physical contact when her parents arent home? i justed wanted to kiss her so many times, but she was never in the mood or she was too tired. so i started to write all of my thoughts about this stuff on paper and when i left i decided to give it to her. all of the stuff basically said i dont know why shes rejecting me and why couldnt she suck it up for this one week that i was here, who cares if your tired, i was too. was i wrong or did this seem like a problem? now she said she is going to break up with me because im not grown up enough and i dont understand, she told me that she didnt intend to do any of this to me the whole week and that i overthought things, idk, did i?. shes only 3 months older than me, cmon, im 17 and feel like im missing something now. maybe i havent grown up yet, im going to call her tomorrow and see what the final verdict is. i told her my medicine was bugging me, which is the truth! i have this add medication which i am now stopping due to major mood swings and i think that contributed to my sadness while i was there and why these thoughts came into my head. can you tell me, was i wrong? do i need to grow up? and what can i say to her that would make her change her mind about me, damn medication was the reason for all this, i know it was, there is no explination whay i should have been that sad and i only hope i can explain this to her. suggestions?
Edit: I dont have a problem with commitment ( i just read that post, all 4 pages) because when i think about it long enough i would like to spend the rest of my life with this girl. Maybe she changed and i just cant accept it for some reason, if thats the case then i will suck it up and let her change, i love her so much that i dont want to see her like that, she looked so miserable and didnt want cheering up or to be cuddle with me, what was i supposed to think, maybe she wasnt in the mood bt i only get to see her for a week, cmon. And no we havent had sex, we were saving that for a lot later, call me stupid, but its not about sex its about the precious time you spend wih her and the caring and sticking together through thick and thin, and if she cant stick with me through this i might tink she isnt ready for commitment, even though she said she was.
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on Wed Feb 25, 2004 12:52 pm, edited 1 time in total.
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